Currently Discussing: He's Just Not That Into You

Not into you
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alright alright - you jerks...before you start bashing on me, why don't you read the whole thing first. Well, over the last week my co-workers began discussing this new book entitled "He's Just Not That Into You." Basically it gives women the cold cutting, hard to hear truth about men and dating relationships. Obviously, I enjoy hearing and discussing this idea of relationship - even though the more I hear the more odd I believe men and women to be. It seems like an interesting book. The author gives practical advice and suggestions that allow women to see if the guy they like is playing with them, avoiding confrontation, or just plain old- not interested. Which as a guy, I guess I just figured women instinctively knew...but as usual, I'm wrong. But here's the thing. As a guy (and many others I know date in the same way i'm about to describe) I do not pursue a women, by pursue I mean wanting a relationship heading towards marriage, unless I am pretty much certain things will go the distance. And, as bizzare as it sounds ladies, I pretty much know if I'm committed to going the distance after a few interactions - guys just kinda know, weird huh? However, with many other types of guys, they may date just to be dating, feeling the waters, a variety of reasons...and let's not forget the cruel, but honestly speaking, dating you for sex. It happens in the real world. Maybe not if you're in a Christian relationship...but secularly speaking - which is the perspective of the book it happens. But I found the ideas to be interesting and I also found that it can co-exist fairly equally with women - on many degrees. The author breaks the book down into these chapters and ideas...He's just not into you if... (I've cut a few of them out...that don't apply to the girls I know and the guys they'd want)
1) He's not asking you out
2) He's not calling you
3) He's not dating you
4) He doesn't want to marry you
5) He's breaking up with you
6) He's disappeared on you
7) He's a selfish jerk, bully, or really big freak
I like this book because it's brutally honest. Basically the author has told what all guys know. Ladies, if we are really interested in you then we are really interested in YOU...and that's it! There shouldn't be any question about what we want. Men are natural pursuers...therefore, if we like you, we'll want to be with you. Now there are times when you're with a guy and he's kinda interested, or he's nice, or whatever - things are sorta nice "but..." Then you are settling. Because, at least from my perspective - When I like a girl, my desires and needs come second to making her feel like a queen. She has all my attention. How can you tell if he's not interested - You're not his number one. Now obviously if you're married etc...these things kinda change because that's the flow of relationship - this is more for the meeting aspect. And, as always there is always more to say - but this is what I've learned too...I think the reverse is true for women. I've decided that with the next girl I'm with I don't want to have any "This and that are great but..." and I want someone who is ready and willing to commit and go the distance. Because after a lot of reflection and prayer over my past, I have decided that if the girl is not feeling okay with committing to me and our relationship, and eventually marriage - then it's obvious she really isn't that into me and who I am. That's fine too...just means there is someone better for me - and better for them. I can't spend any more time trying to be the right person for someoen that I'm not supposed to be with - I need to become the right person for God...and he will put me in places I need to be for Him. Overall, an interesting book - I like this author because I feel like he's trying to help out the ladies...and the guys. Basically he's saying - let's be honest. Honestly is something that will set us all free and help us out. Lastly, I like working with women all day...but I notice relationships are a big point of conversation sometimes...but I suppose that's the way it goes - alrighty...I'm off. If you feel like looking at the book - go for it...I don't think I'll read it, but it seemed interesting and honest.
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