Mentioning the Superficial

Dating
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"People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges."
-Joseph Newton

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."
-Anais Nin

"I've learned in my lifetime so far that you can't help who you fall for and no matter how hard you try and how much it hurts you everyday that you just wanna be with them or just talk to them you never stop trying to make them happy by the little things you say or do because thats what makes your life worth going on for."

I have been extremely blessed by God over the last few months of returning to Kansas City. Even in the last two weeks I have shared experiences with a variety of people...and it has been 'swell.' Even though there are very few people how still use the word 'swell.' I am meeting with a few guys during the week, meeting a large number of people at church, and just joined an amazing bible study on Thursdays. My thanks have to be to God because he's the only one that can provide these kinda things. But over the last few days I've been thinking about how lucky we are when we meet people that just connect with us. People that spark interests in our hearts, minds, and lives. Someone that we have a desire to learn more about, to forgive, to make memories with, and to love. these relationships come along only a few times in our lives. I feel if I can end my life with a handful of these relationships then I have done well. There are a couple people in the last few weeks that I think may be some of those people, at least for this season in my life. There are definitely a couple that I am particurally interested in getting to know better, whether we become average friends or those lifelong friends that you can connect with on a deeper level. As I was looking through my pictures I came across this one. It comes from a book entitled Don't Date Naked. What is it about? I have no clue...but I have thought a bit about this idea of relationship, dating, singleness at this point in my life, marriage, and the girls I am meeting these days. I guess I've been out of the game for a while...actually, was I ever in the game? Annie and I always seemed to do things a bit different than the typical dating idea. It seemed to just flow naturally, though we haven't talked in a while, I am thankful for our relationship in the past and hope that the next girl i meet...or if I've ever met her, maybe, have the same kind of natural flow in our relationship, with the exception of the breaking up getting back together thing - I don't think that's good for anyone (creates a feeling of conditional love in how the dumpee sees themself). But, I am thinking it's a different story these days - by that I mean in the working world. It's too long to go into, but dating seems to be different. To have success you must be more direct and honest about your intentions. The slowness of getting to know each other and hang out a lot in informal, natural, and spontaneou situations is really tough. Dating, becomes exactly it's title, dating. So, Christmas is coming up...we'll just have to wait and see what happens huh? The old and the new are ever present through and through.

"There's always that one person that will always have your heart. You never see it coming cause you're blinded from the start."